Antharjanam: Memoirs of a Namboodiri Woman by Devaki Nilayamgode

I came across this book last year, when I was in India, but could not get hold of it. Since then it was on my must-read list of books.

The book is an English translation(by Radhika Menon and Indira Menon) of a Malayam book written by Devaki Nilayamgode, a 75 year old Namboodiri woman. She recounts the life of a Namboodiri woman from childhood. Namboodiri women are called, ‘Antharjanam’, which literally means, ‘People who live inside’. After the age of 6 or 7, Namboodiri women are confined indoors, and not seen even by their own fathers or brothers. Those days, it was common for only the oldest son in a family to marry within their caste. The other sons would do a ‘Sambhandam’ with Nair women, and the Nair women and their children would continue to live in their house and not in the Namboodiri illam. It was common for the eldest sons to practice polygamy for various reasons. There were instances where a man on his death-bed would marry a teenager. Illams traditionally would have unmarried girls, married women and widows of the Namboodiris.

The author recounts her own childhood in a prosperous illam. She grew up in a prosperous illam, and yet her childhood felt almost inhuman. The hierarchy is clear right from the beginning of life. A girl child was never welcomed with happiness. She talks about how they did not even have a comb to brush their hair. Nobody cared about such things. She talks about how her mother never encouraged her or her sisters to have any sort of freedom, as that would not bode well for a life where they would have to live under the shadow of others. Rituals, traditions and rules, made their lives. Some of the things she describes are heart-breaking. Namboodiris could get polluted by getting touched by other castes. During deliveries, Nair women would be attending to the Namboodiri women, so after the delivery, the first thing the poor women had to do was go and have a bath in the pond, to purify themselves. Already weakened by the delivery, they had to make their way to the pond, have a bath before they could be rest at all. As Nilayamgode mentions, nobody spared a thought that often the water would be muddy during the monsoon, and having a bath in that condition might attract infection in the already weak women. Traditions were the most important thing, so had to be followed.

The plight of the widows were particularly sad. They had to pay for the crime of having outlived their husbands throughout their lives. Nilyamgode’s mother was a widow, the third wife of a Namboodiri, but she was respected for her abilities, so she had a slightly better life. Education was practically non-existent for women. Devaki learnt how to read and write, and that was about it. Her sisters started reading books that their brother would slyly pass to them, and that was their only source of reading. It was only when they came in touch with their sophisticated Nair cousins that they realised how different their lives were. The Nair girls would be well-groomed, well looked after, and would even treat the little Namboodiri children with affection – something they never got from their mothers or fathers. She recounts how they would give them pieces of soap, which was treasured and used sparingly to make it last longer.

Fortunately for Devaki, the family that she married it was very liberal and socially progressive. By that time, social reforms and movements had begun. They were focussing on educating women, widow re-marriage, encouraging the other sons of households to marry within their caste.

Nilayamgode writes about how her book will be the last of it’s kind, because change has ensured that there are no longer problems that are restricted just to the Antharjanams. That life today is so much better than it had been a few decades ago. The book brings to focus how much of change has happened, and how change can happen when communities decide for themselves that things have to change – when the change happens from within. Most of the change that happened in the Namboodiri community was because people themselves realized that things have to change in their society. When the society convinced their widowed sisters to remarry, educated their daughters, and encouraged their wives to take control.

I though I was shocked because I grew up in a different time. My mother started reading this book, last week, when she was here, and she was as shocked as me. She had an inkling about the lives of the Antharjanams but had no idea how different it was. My grandmother would have been 86 or 86 now had she been alive today, so around 10 years or so older than Devaki Nilayamgode. They would have grown up in villages quite near by, in families of similar financial capabilities and yet Ammamma(and her sisters) was an educated, empowered lady. So much of variation in lifestyle just because they belonged to different castes.

Isn’t it wonderful how time and progress has brought it to a point where today, everything else being equal, there would be no difference between me and a Namboodiri girl?

A wonderful book. A must read.

32 thoughts on “Antharjanam: Memoirs of a Namboodiri Woman by Devaki Nilayamgode

    • Absolutely, IHM! Our constitution is something we need to be thankful for. I find it funny when people claim that we should not have been a democracy – I can’t help wonder what our conditions would have been like, had we not the Constitution and the democratic values.

      Although in this case, I believe reform started way before Independence. The Namboodiri Yogakshema Sabha started social reforms in the early 1920s(if I am not mistaken) and it was the reform from within that made things change for the Namboodiri women.

  1. Beautiful review. And now I really wish I can get hold of this book quick. I did not know that Namboodiri women had so many restrictions on them. I guess I never really thought that being a higher caste would cause you to be so ill-treated by your own family.

    • Neither did I, Aathira.

      One would assume that they were in a better position. She writes about how they would view their Nair cousins in awe. And as my mum was reading it, she realised that her mother and her aunts did have a much better lifestyle and opportunities than the Namboodiri women at that time. Do read it and let me know how you find it.

  2. That review and the description got me intrigued, would be trying to get hold of this book. Thanks for the review and opening a new chapter from history in front of me, I never knew such customs like ‘Antharjanam’ existed in certain castes of the society.

  3. nice review and the book sounds very interesting! For some strange reason, probably because Kerela has a strong matriarchal society, I had never thought that women would be subject to this sort of treatment. But I guess I have got it all wrong.

  4. Nice review Smitha πŸ™‚ This books seems to shed light on a generation before us. Will try to read this one for sure πŸ™‚ Thanks for introducing it πŸ™‚

  5. Thanks Smitha, I have heard about Namboodiri and Nair women from my mother in law (She was brought up in Kerala) but this book will sure give me a better insight..definitely getting this one!

  6. This book reminds me of an incident that a colleague of mine was telling. She is a Bengali and one of her old relative who is a widow is suffering from various ailments. As per her doctor she should be eating protein rich diet but is unable to eat non veg stuff & eggs etc because she is supposed to abstain from them because of her widowhood. No one has been able to convince her to do otherwise and what is sadder is that even her son feels that what she is doing is correct!
    Imagine, this is in present age!
    But yes I agree with you that we are fortunate that things have changed for better otherwise living that life wud have been a hell!
    Will look out for this book!

  7. Good to see this nice review. I am glad to know how well-received this book is. This is such a proud moment, the author being my grandmother. And it’s true what you say about the change in the society. All I know about these customs are what I have heard from her and my parents. I never faced anything similar to this, thanks to my family’s modern outlook!!

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