The need to flout rules..

.. seems to be an Indian thing – or so some people I run into seem to believe.

On the day trip to White Scar caves, we ran into some ‘proud’ Indians. So proud they were, that they felt it necessary to announce it, ‘Rules are meant to be broken, yaar’, and ‘We are Indians’ – as if that meant that we could just ignore rules, or flout them, as we please. There was a rule of not taking pictures in certain places, and this group made it a point to ignore it, while loudly proclaiming that they could do it – because they’re Indians! It makes my heart break to see my nationality used as an excuse to not follow rules.

Sadly, this happens almost everywhere. We seem to have built up a reputation to not follow rules. I remember at a restaurant in Switzerland, the waitress coming and telling us very sternly that outside food is not allowed – we were not carrying food with us  – but clearly our compatriots have left such an impression that they felt the need to warn us. It felt really sad -but I could understand why she must have felt the need to say it to us. Clearly lots of people do things like this.

One time, we had a dance function, and they asked us mothers to stay out of the dressing area, while the dance teacher and other assistants would get the children ready. It was not big enough for all of us to fit in. Yes, we were not entirely happy, but understood it and  respected it. One of us,however, found a reason to go up there, and refused to leave. She said, she is ready to break all rules when it came to her child. That attitude makes me very uncomfortable. If you do not set an example to your child, how would you expect her to have a respect for rules and regulations? When as responsible adults we cannot respect rules, what can we expect from children who grow up seeing this?

If you have to break rules, I am sure nothing any of us say will make a difference – but please, please do not justify it by bringing in your nationality.

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17 thoughts on “The need to flout rules..

  1. Very annoying. People tend to carry their lax standards everywhere, and are baffled when foreigners frown at them.

  2. The ‘Indian’ thing to do is one of the things I have heard a lot… and a set of repeated actions form a norm.. and what you are saying above is completely true…. Using ‘Nationality’ as an excuse for doing wrong things.. aint right. i have seen kids using ‘age’ as a reason..w hich is fair enough!
    My daughter is called ‘miss rule book’ she has a zillion rules about every thing.. and wants to follow them at all costs. i worry she may be an extreme case of ‘by the book’ at four!

  3. “If you do not set an example to your child, how would you expect her to have a respect for rules and regulations? When as responsible adults we cannot respect rules, what can we expect from children who grow up seeing this?” – Exactly my point..

    “Be the change you want to see in the world” – Said by Mahatma Gandhi
    I will rephrase it as “Be the change you want to see in your child” – I believe in this 100%. It helps to regulate self too…

  4. I think these are kind of things that makes people in west to think we are a very poor and unhealthy country. The people in the abroad are ambassadors of our nation and what they do affects others directly 😦
    Whats more baffling is the people proud about their ‘breaking rules’ behavior..:(

  5. This is truly shameful. First you break a rule then you think you can get away with it because Indians are “like this only”. How very very awful. I’m so with you on this Smitha.. whether it’s about littering, or carrying stuff they’re not allowed to or as you said taking pictures, they always think they can get away with it.

  6. I have been thinking on these very same lines of late. Though I don’t know much about the situation outside India, I know that it is bad over here. Some people seem to take pride in flouting all rules. It is sad to see people using their nationality as an excuse for flouting rules! 😦 Being an Indian does not automatically excuse you from sticking to rules!! And yes, like you say, what kind of example do these people set for their children?!

    In India, there is a lot of red tapism, but then some rules are for our good. They are in place so that YOU drive safe, YOUR country is safe, and that YOU can breathe peacefully. It is amazing to see people flouting such rules – especially the drink and drive rule and wearing helmets! That’s so sad – results in so many unwanted deaths!

  7. Totally agree with you! People here have this “chalta hai” attitude which is both irritating & saddening! In India rules are made to be broken!

  8. You’ve almost taken words from my mouth. Words that are there all the time because people break rules all the time. If someone does that in front of me I just give them that cold evil stare, which says aren’t you even ashamed! I don’t know if it helps but it makes me feel better as I can’t go around advising people.

  9. The funny part is, the same Indians who flout the rules here, and are the first ones to be decent and follow rules in a place abroad, say, Singapore.
    Shows the double standards I guess!

    But I guess in your case, you were looking at examples as bad as they come, irrespective of location… 😐

  10. It’s like parents telling lies continuously in front of the kids and expecting the kids to speak the truth. There is one fitting quote I remember, ‘Don’t be afraid that your kid is not listening to you. Be very afraid that your kid is watching you’. We can put it on T-shirts and roam around I guess 🙂

    Destination Infinity

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