.. for sure.. but giving what? That is the problem.. One of the most difficult things for me these days is selecting birthday presents for kids..
Not that there are no options, but most of the stuff seem so useless! Especially when I see daughter playing with the stuff, I can’t help feeling sad that people spend so much on presents which do not even get used the way they were meant to.. More often than not, children lose interest in toys, at least lose interest in the way they were meant to be used.. Daughter uses bits and pieces of toys in lots of imaginative ways – but then for that, she would not have needed those specific toys, if you know what I mean..
So every time I am in the shops trying to figure out what to buy, my mind blanks out.. Shelves full of pink/purple coloured toys indicating that those are the ones for girls, blue/black/yellow for boys.. But most of them quite inane.. Of course, there are some good games, and some things which do make sense.. but when it comes to choosing for others, it gets tough at times.. I love gifting books, but even that gets difficult when not all children(and their parents, for that matter) are interested in them.. Sometimes you don’t know the child well enough. I mean, you do know the family, but the child itself, not so much.. Some times clothes are an option, but that too is possible only when we are really close to them.. And what if the child already has that toy/dress/book(s).. These days when most children’s rooms are full of toys and stuff, it would be difficult not to give something that the child already has.
For school friends, it is easier. Most of the children bring arty/crafty stuff, which makes more sense. At least they get used. The problem when it comes to close friends(school or otherwise) you want to put in more thought for the present. Some people ask the children what they want. I am not too fond of that method, because more often than not, they come up with stuff which has caught their fancy at the moment. At least that is the way it is with daughter. For instance, the other day daughter saw some toy on TV and said that she wanted it. Our response to all ‘toy requests’ are, ‘ why don’t you tell us what you don’t want, for a change’ 🙂 That is the end of it, normally. The next day something else will catch her fancy.. And if someone asks her today, it would just be something that she saw on TV or that a friend has. So I’m not so sure if it makes much sense to ask her what she wants.. Then again every child is different, some children may have strong ideas of what present they want… But then, I like presents to be surprises, half the fun is lost if you know what you are getting – this is one concept that husband just does not get 🙂
I love selecting gifts, and love them to be meaningful, for the child to really like the present, but sometimes it just gets tough!
So tell me, how do you go about selecting gifts for children? I have to add here, selecting gifts for children is much, much easier than selecting for men!