.. people try to convince me to have a second child – just so that we don’t ‘regret it later’.
As I mentioned yesterday, there is a baby boom around here – second babies all of them.
The brunt of the baby boom is borne by one child parents like me, who are advised by all and sundry on how it is essential to have another child. I am all for people having their second, third, fourth, whatever’th’ child, as far as they treat it as their private business and not as a license to ‘guide’ other people.
I find it extremely annoying to have to tell people again and again that we are happy being a 3 people family. For us, daughter is all we need. And both of us are absolutely sure.Yes, we have discussed it extensively, and feel that this is perfect for us. At the moment of course, who knows what is going to change tomorrow? Can we be sure we will not regret it – who knows! Can you imagine the outcry if I ask these people who decide to have 2(or more) children the same question – ‘What if you regret later’? Why assume that the people who decide to have one or no children haven’t thought out their decision? Why assume that total outsiders would know what works for us as a family? Yes, some might be friends, but even friends(and family) are not the ones who can decide on a couple’s behalf.
A child should be brought into this world only if a couple want it – not because it is ‘the expected thing’, or ‘2 children families are the best’ or ‘4 children are the best’ or even worse, ‘as a back-up’ – whatever that means! To each their own.
Just as I don’t try to promote a 1 child family, why can’t they, the more than one child families, keep their opinions/advice to themselves? Especially when nobody asked them for it?
Edited to add: Some more reasons why people should have the second baby
– Starry’s contribution – ‘Company for the first child’
– Something that I had forgotten to include in the post(this is what happens when I type out a post in 5 mins). Now that you are a ‘housewife’, why can’t you have another child? Housewife/homemaker equals breeding machine?
– Baby to keep me busy now that daughter is at school – I must look incredibly jobless if people have to come up with that 😦