I am a social person, most of the time, but there are times, when I need to/love to be alone.
Times when I enjoy being alone, when I enjoy my own company. Who am I kidding, I think I can enjoy my own company any time.
Some of my friends tell me how they find it difficult to walk alone. For me, for some reason, walking alone is fun. I think I also get a lot of ideas on what to post next, when I walk alone. And I get to walk at my pace. I walk very fast(very unladylike, according to some, not that it bothers me), so if I walk with someone else, I end up having to walk slow, which to me is a waste of time. I know, I sound so selfish. But since I walk to keep fit, I feel happier if I spend 30 mins walking 3 miles rather than 1.5 hours walking 2 miles, you know. Being alone gives me the flexibility to do it my way.
I was talking to someone on the phone once, and mentioned that daughter was in bed, and husband had a work get-together. She asked me if I did not feel lonely. The thought had not occurred to me. It was me-time, and I love having me time. I like the fact that I have time to just to myself, to read, blog, or do whatever pleases me. And can keep myself entertained.
There are times when I refuse dinner get-together invites from my girlfriends when the husbands have a work get-together. I refuse some of them just because I need that me-time. That space of my own. That time where I am alone with my thoughts, and enjoy it. I can’t understand why being alone is automatically called being ‘lonely’. I sometimes wonder if our hobbies can indicate what sort of person we are. I love reading, which is mainly a ‘single person’ activity, so I can’t help wonder if people like me who like being alone, also have hobbies and interests which might not always be extremely social?
In fact, to me, if I can’t relate to a bunch of people in a social gathering, I am far more likely to feel lonely even in the midst of people, than when I am alone at home. I like being ‘home alone’, I like having my space, and I like my own company.
I have friends who have friends over at their place almost every day. While I do like having friends over or meeting up with friends, but after a point, it gets too much for me. I need to detox 🙂 And I can’t do it everyday.
How about you? What kind of social animal are you? Do you like being alone or does it amount to loneliness?