‘I really admire your way of thinking,’ said X as we were chatting, adding, ‘not like housewives normally think’.
And then she went on to explain how ‘normally’ women do not think like men and all this while trying to compliment me.
To say that I was gobsmacked would be an understatement. Does the way you think or the thinking process itself have anything to do with the fact that I am a housewife/homemaker. How does that make any difference?
It made me wonder about perceptions and prejudices. Do we judge and perceive people differently based on what they do? I had blogged about how I have seen people treat people differently based on different factors.
Does the fact that I am a homemaker, mean that my analytical skills or my thinking would be sub-standard ? Just by virtue of the fact that somebody is gainfully employed, does it make his/her thinking process in any way, superior? Obviously, the assumption is that because somebody is working, they are automatically more exposed to the world outside than a traditional homemaker who stays at home – but how true is it in today’s world? I know homemakers who are far more aware and educated than people with several degrees but no real education. People(both men and women), who despite having worked across countries are still so close minded that they could just be living in the neighborhood they grew up in.
It also makes me wonder how easily people attach labels and ‘sort’ people with that. Surely every individual is multifaceted. What we do for a living is just one aspect of us. Some chose the career that they are in, some are forced into what they do by circumstances, but is it really an measure their capabilities? I mean, obviously some career choices do indicate abilities but does it automatically mean that others in other professions do not have the same capabilities? And more importantly, why is there such a big prejudice against homemakers? Don’t they have a very important role in the society?
The inherent prejudice just makes me wild. It makes me wilder when people who should know better make statements like this.