Rape in India – The safest crime?

Rape is the safest crime in India, isn’t it? At a time that, newspapers are full of the Shiney Ahuja story, it transpires that rape, in India is the safest crime – from the criminals point of view. Shiney Ahuja was probably unlucky that his victim was brave enough to go to the police..

Look at the positive side.. Most people just do not report rapes.. Rape is apparently the most under-reported crime in India. Β This chilling article talks out how most rapists get away with it.

A rapist creates an opportunity that allows for a situation where there is privacy so that his control over the victim is complete.

And even worse

Figures point to the fact that most rapists are married. Experts believe that two prime reasons for rape, which have little to do with the marital status, are uncontrolled urge to enact sexual fantasies and to dominate. Therefore, it is not a crime of opportunity that is carried out in the spur of the moment, as rapists depose in their defence or make it sound to be a consensual act, but in most cases rape is well-planned and a considered act. The rapist actually enacts the rape in his mind for many times before he actually carries it out; the opportunity in most of the cases is created by manipulating situation carefully. That is why as many as 90 per cent cases are of ‘Date Rape’ where the victim is known to the rapist.

Badz writes in her post about how her friend was victimised further by being blamed for the rape! The victim is almost invariably blamed for the rape.. More so , if the person is known to her. Is it a wonder that people prefer to keep in under the wraps? After all, why invite trouble? From a parent’s point of view – their daughter has already been ‘violated’ so why further the humiliation by telling everybody that she was raped? Why endanger her chances of a ‘happy married life’ . And then the matter of the ‘family honour’ – why risk it all – much easier to gag the victim? Β A lot of rapes are committed because the man knows that the woman will not be in a position to raise her voice against him.

Things can only change when people start accepting that rape victims are not to blame. That raping is a crime and that rapists need to be punished. It is never the fault of the victim – someone who will need a lot of counselling to be able to overcome the trauma of what happened to her. She is no different from a mugging victim or a stabbing victim. Nobody asks for it. No matter what clothes she wore, if she does not agree to it – it is rape. Until that mentality among us changes, rapes will continue to be the safest crime to commit.

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60 thoughts on “Rape in India – The safest crime?

  1. Things can only change when people start accepting that rape victims are not to blame.

    That is the most important thing… most !!

    Yes.. until then rapists will continue to get away with it..

    • So true smitha.. its sad that in most cases the victims are blamed for it..
      just before blaming, if they think for a while, they’ll know that no one would want such a thing to happen to them..

      True.. the pressure by the society is what makes people think this way.. sadly

  2. That’s so scary and a sorry state. People know only to point fingers. This girl took a brave step by gng to the police. But in a country like ours, even the police can’t be believed. We have heard and read so many cases in which the victim’s woes have been increased by those who are actually supposed to provide protection. I think that scares many people away too. The problem has to be tackled at the root.

    I agree! One of the saddest realities of India is that we are actually equally scared of the police as we are of the criminals!

  3. The silence of the ‘moral brigade’ on these matters always amazes me. Rape is a weapon of war….and should be prosecuted as such. Tagging it a crime is no longer enough.

    So true! Tagging it a crime is not enough.. and to make a difference – people’s mindset needs to change too..

    And welcome here πŸ™‚ Do drop in again πŸ™‚

  4. The girl who complained about shiney ahuja was lucky enough to get so much help and attention,there was a case where a girl is ganged raped by policemen and the police station was not ready to take the complaint and our kind media didnt show this news at all and now that shiney ahuja’s case is being draged so much,i agree what he has done is bad and unpardonable but all the cases should be treated the same way.

    Yes, all cases need to be tackled in the same way.. You are right – in a lot of cases the police does not take enough action.. I am sure in smaller towns/villages – they might not even have the means to do a DNA test and everything..

    It is the victim who knows the pain,parents instead of taking her side,they blame her–this is very sad
    Yes, she gets no support from anywhere.. Can’t imagine what they must be going through..

    If i am not wrong BJP govt has passed or were about to pass a rule that rapist will get a death sentence and the next govt (congress) has withdrawn that rule

    Really? I had no idea – will look it up..

  5. yes, good post smithus……. our culture had still not moved forward in this department becuase of the “social stigma” ……..
    Yes, so sad, isn’t it? That the victim is made to feel responsible for a rapist?

    hmm, it is a sad case……. but Shiney is “innocent until proven guilty” now……..
    I know.. who knows they might even ‘prove’ that he was ‘framed’…

  6. Smitha, the only thing that matters in a rape case is speedy justice. I don’t know what should be done for that. Perhaps fast-track courts should be constituted. Perhaps social workers should be involved. I have heard about good work being done by ‘Nirmala Niketan’ here in Mumbai to rehabilitate victims and help them in court matters.

    Yes, fast-track courts are the only way out.. And the police needs to be properly trained to handle such cases too.. They need to have everything handy..
    Social workers could definitely help..especially in rehabilitating the victims as you say..

    Too much media publicity sometimes just results in publicity for the political activists involved.
    Too much publicity is always a bad thing.. Sadly these cases do get too much publicity – thanks to our scandal hunting media.. They end up taking away from the seriousness of the crime and also end up hampering the course of law..

    And a trial by media is definitely something NOT to be desired. Look what happened in the Arusji murder case!

    Absolutely! Trial by media is definitely NOT desired.. If only the media understood that! For them a case like this is just TRP ratings, isn’t it?

  7. Rape is an act that is almost as old as mankind. After a military victory, women of the defeated side have almost always been considered fair game, part of the victor’s booty. Don’t get me wrong, I am not justifying rape; I am just trying to put it in a historical and global context. Even today, if I am not wrong, New York has one of the highest number of rape cases in the world.

    If I recall correctly, many years back Tyson was booked for rape, I think. He had drinks with a girl, she came with him to his bedroom where they started making out. Just shirt of penetration, she said “no” but it was too late for him. Now that was a date rape. While I agree that Tyson should have stopped when he was asked to, there is also the matter of a girl knowing how far she can go without getting taken advantage of. The world is not perfect; all guys are not gentlemen; prevention, as the old saying goes, is better than cure, and one stitch in time does save nine.

    Yes, Rapes happen everywhere – no question about it. The only issue I have is that the onus always seems to be on the girl to ‘prevent’ it. All I am really trying to say is that maybe if there is enough to deter the man from raping a girl – it might work better.. Right now – it is a cakewalk for rapists – especially in India. Abroad – there are rapists but the victims are also in a position to come out and report it. In India – people prefer not to report it – for various reasons.
    I can imagine that many rape cases are not reported in India because the social stigma attached is very high, particularly in small cities and villages. While there is little that a woman can do if she surprised by a stranger, I think she can, at least in some cases of date rape, take steps to protect herself.

    Oh yes – there are steps that a woman can take.. I used to take out some sharp keys everytime I entered a seemingly unsafe area.. Learn martial arts – definitely – no question about it.. Having said that – apparently stranger rapists are lesser than ‘known rapists’ – that is where the real danger lies..

    In the Shiney Ahuja case, for example, the girl is reported to have said that he tried it first on Saturday. If that was so, she should have told her mother/aunt and refused to stay back alone in the house when Shiney’s wife was not there the next day. Had she taken that elementary precaution, Shiney would have been warned by the girl’s folks gently and the girl would not have got raped. I am not blaming her for what happened. Shiney needs to be punished if he did rape her. But certainly the girl could not have been surprised by what he did on Sunday.

    Yes, she should have been warned.. Perhaps she needed the job too much – or thought that it was a one off incident.. we don’t know.. But the fact remains that a lot of such rapists escape – simply because the woman has no choice but to keep quiet. Think of a scenario where she desperately needs the money.. Can’t afford to lose the job.. Knows that the police will not take her seriously – she might remain a silent victim – just because she does not have any option.. and I am sure that there are loads of silent victims…who are silent because they are helpless..

    • Vinod,

      I agree that girls should take precautions to protect themselves but why should the onus always be on the girls? Why should girls not wear jeans to avoid eve teasing and rape? What about the men? can nothing be done by them to control their hormones and need to be in control?

      • Bones I don’t think I said anything about jeans and skirts!

        The onus is more on girls only because they are the ones who will become victims if they are not careful about where they are and with whom. I am not being sexist; just practical.

        See, for murder there is death penalty. That has not stopped everyone from murdering. If I see a violent man with a gun in his hand and still get into a brawl with him, I am asking to be shot.

        ‘If I see a violent man with a gun in his hand and still get into a brawl with him, I am asking to be shot.’ – but this does not fit here at all. This is the equivalent of saying that ‘she asked for it’! And irrespective of the circumstances – be it date rape or not – if one of the parties says ‘no’ – it ought to be respected. I just cannot accept the argument that men have no control over their ‘desires’ ! Which begs the question – why don’t you see women raping men – if desires are so over powering? Because it has more to do with power, sex as a means of subjugation, a means of exerting the power that society gives man.. just because he is a man!

        • Don’t I totally agree with you? Rape happens only in those case where the man does not respect the “no”. For that he is rightly punished. It has more to do with power, I agree, and as I said in the beginning of my original comment, and as you too are saying, sex is used by man as a means of subjugation. That is not how it should be.

        • On a lighter note, women do “rape” men, all the time! But since they cannot physically overpower them, they do so mentally and by other means and then the man is theirs, willingly, with no hope of escape!

        • Vinod Sir when we are talking of a society that needs to be as close to an ideal one as one can possibly make it..then shouldn’t we also look to see that girls dont have to protect themselves from animals roaming in the streets?

          Sheila Dixit had said infamously some time back

          driving at 3AM alone in a city which people believe is not very safe for women after dark ………one should not be adventurous. ”

          One was inclined to ask her..and what are you doing madam chief minister?
          making sure that rapists roam around on the streets? and that women stay at home under lock and key?

          then there was also the Delhi police Commissioner who drew a lot of flak for this comment of his..

          β€˜β€˜Crime against women would drop by 50 per cent if they are careful in the way they dress, if they know their limits and if they do not exercise unsafe behavior.’’

          it is a wonder we didnt puke on reading this statement by someone who was supposed to be ‘protecting’ us..

          http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/21200356.cms (link)

          These statements lay the blame on women Vinod Sir..if not directly then indirectly..the subtle emphasis is always that women ‘invite’ it and that men being well..the animals that they are will not be able to find any ‘prey’ if women simply sit at home..

          I am reminded of a slogan when we had gone to protest exactly this attitude after Mangalore..

          girls are NOT cattle !Stop locking them up at dusk!

          …Mangalore happened because some men believed that they had a right to tell the women how to dress and where to go..what to eat ,whom to meet…

          politically motivated or not..the incidents of girls being beaten on camera were very real and very disgusting and very heartbreaking..
          this is the India of our dreams?

          this is the attitude that says that rape is your fault you sl#### women!becasue you provoke us..

          • I want a society where I will NOT be groped on a public beach by a sex starved crowd of 100 or more just because I wanted to have a midnight walk with the person I love(Mumbai and gateway of India)

            Yes! Absolutely!

            I want a society where I will be able to come back home from office at 2 in the night and that I wont have to ‘beg’ to be given day shifts because I don’t know who will pounce on me from which corner at what time of the night..

            Exactly! and then they complain that women are not ‘good’ employees because they ask for such ‘concessions’! It’s damned if you do and damned if you don’t!
            NO.
            I dont want to stay at home..I don’t want to lock myself..I dont want to make myself so vulnerable that there will come a day where I will forget what independence and outdoors feels like..

            I would rather learn to protect myself……

            take precautions?
            yes that too..

            but I want a society where women do NOT think twice before going to lodge a complaint that she was raped..because she is not at fault..the B####### is!

            Absolutely!!!

          • I should have known better than to enter this “den”! It would have been perfect to say that rapists should be give death sentence…or even a Talibani type of punishment involving some chopping off.

            Since I was not politically correct, I asked for it, eyes wide open. Ok. There are two ways of looking at it. One is what should be and one is what is. I am sure there is no disagreement on what should be. That needs to be worked on by the whole society. Till that is achieved, on has to remember what is and put in place practical precautions.

            We all know, for example, that little kids are exploited…there have been posts and comments on the subject. It should not happen. But it does. That is why, all the moms who have little girls have taken all possible practical steps to ensure that they are not left unattended etc. No mom is going to talk of ideal situations and not face existing reality and protect her child.

            Shiela Dixit was politically incorrect but factually right. We all know how unsafe Delhi is for single women, particularly late at night. Yes we must make it safe, but till it is, due precautions need to be taken. There are other places and stretches of roads that are unsafe for anyone, man or woman after dark. They should be made safe; the government has failed etc, but that talk is not going to protect anyone who still decides to drive through or go there.

            The statements of Dixit and the police commissioner should not be viewed as laying blame on women, as has been blindly done. They should be more viewed as an admission of their failure and a factual statement on how things are. They need to change and indeed they are, though not at the pace we would like them to. Till they do, it is only wise to recognise reality as it is and respond to it accordingly. Of course offenders need to be punished and swiftly, because that is one way of bringing about desired change.

            My biggest issue with Sheila Dixit’s statement is that it might be factually correct – but instead of accepting that the government has not done enough to control crime – she squarely lies the blame on the victim.

            ‘driving at 3AM alone in a city which people believe is not very safe for women after dark ………one should not be adventurous. ‘

            If you see what she has said – it is saying that such things will happen if women are ‘adventurous’! That attitude is what maddens me.. It is almost as if women cannot expect safety. If they want to be safe – they need to be either covered head to toe, hide in their house or come out with men for safety!! What kind of life is that? Are we not saying in a veiled way – what the Talibans are advocating? That is my issue with such statements which lay blame on the women. I wish they would come out with purpose statements which says that we aim for the country to be safe for everybody to be out and about at all times.

          • Vinod Sir I agree with the statement that precautions need to be taken..

            as for being factually right..
            lets put this in context of Obama..since he is the one name which has inspired such confidenec around the world..

            Obama’s speech in Cairo?
            Lets imagine for a moment that Obama issues this EXACT same statement

            β€˜β€˜Crime against women would drop by 50 per cent if they are careful in the way they dress, if they know their limits and if they do not exercise unsafe behavior.’’-Barrack Obama

            Would we still call it factually correct and an admission of failure?
            OR would we be horrified beyond belief and wonder if he has gone mad?

          • Of course we would be horrified. That statement was inappropriate and would never have been made by an eloquent leader. In fact that statement itself is proof of how bad things are on ground.

            Exactly – we expect more of Obama – and by the same token – shouldn’t our leaders be more responsible for the jobs that are supposed to be doing? We have taken it for granted that the state will do NOTHING. And all the onus is on the general public. And when it comes to women – well, we ask for it – BY STEPPING OUT OF THE HOUSE!

            Coming to Obama, I think he would have spoken of reality differently. He would have qualified it by adding that things were not as they should be, he was trying to fix them by putting together a series of measures and that though he absolutely hated the idea of any restrictions whatsoever, he would urge voluntary discretion till things were got totally under control.

            Yes, Obama would – I agree – mainly because the society he lives in demands it too.. In our society it is very conveniently the ‘woman’s fault’.

          • Dont we have a habit in our country to catch the ear the other way or the wrong way ??

            We will censor movies… but we cannot place a strict vigilance to monitor at the cinema’s that under 18’s dont go in movies that are “A” marked…

            Exactly!!! You have hit it on the head!

            Similarly why bother about creating a safe environment… thats more difficult … the more easy way is to ask the girls to stay in line…

            Much easier option, isn’t it?

            simple no… !!!

            sadly that is how things work..

  8. In this type of cases, it is always the girl who is hurt. Doesn’t matter whether she wins the case, whether the culprit is prisoned, her life is at a standstill, here, in India. Once she gets the ‘raped girl’ name, her future is a zero. Who will marry her – even a widower or a divorcee, will not agree to give her a decent life. She might be scared for life – she might not forget the incident and her family life, if she gets one, will be full of tension.

    Yes, the girl is the one whose life is really messed up – while the rapist walks away – without a care in the world..

    As you said, the rapists are mostly married men and one threat is enough for the girl to keep quiet. Even small children who do not know what is going on, are not safe from these rogues.

    I know.. so sad, isn’t it?
    I wonder how this girl is going to survive after so much media attention, for being bold.

    I hope she gets all the help she needs..

  9. what if shiny will not really (truly) guilty

    nps, Welcome here

    Yes, that possibility is always there.. And it is for a court of law to decide at the end of the day.
    If you see, my post was not on that at all – it was more on the crime of rape – which sadly does not get reported in so many cases..

  10. As always this one goes under how our society sees the women.. they are ready to blame her for anyone’s mistake and our society gives too much importance to the victim, but not in the right sense 😦 I think this is the only big crime which goes unreported in this so-called civilised world and the crime doer walks away proudly 😦

    Yes, Kanagu – so right – ‘only big crime which goes unreported in this so-called civilised world and the crime doer walks away proudly :-(‘ It is because the crime doer knows that he can get away – that he has the guts to do it in the first place.. Because he knows that the society will find it easier to blame the girl..

  11. it’s such a shame…on top of being through what would be the most nightmarish / traumatic experience of their lifetime, the victims are to take the blame?…when is all this going to change????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I wish I knew! I wish I could make it change.. It is such a sad state..

  12. The judiciary system should be changed and people should be afraid of the law. Right now, we all are taking advantage of the law in different ways.Rapists should be sentenced to death. Period.

    Agree totally! More than the judiciary – I think the implementation of laws need to change – we have laws which are not even being used effectively.

  13. The worst thing Smitha is that women are women’s worst enemies…Just check out this TOI article (http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Lifestyle/Beware-of-the-maid/articleshow/4667727.cms)…It blames maids for their masters’ indiscretions…The title is “Beware of the maid!” The last line of the article is “A word of advice to all the women out there- choose your maid with care!”

    I just read it, Bones – and I am shocked – to say the least! What was she thinking while writing that article?? And what are the TOI editors doing in even allowing such a piece to be published! Beware of the maid indeed! And why? because men have fantasies involving maids! Well, I have read that several men fantasize about school girls! Shall we ban them – just to ensure that these men with their ‘hard to control’ responses are not ‘tempted’!!! That was such a sickening article!

    • Bones, Is that artcile written by Shobhaa De? I haven’t read yet but that woman is also siding with Shiney Ahuja and blasting his wife and also maid.

      Shobhaa has some nerve to call women gold diggers. Did she forget her past?

      Solilo – no this is by some woman called Kalpana Sharma.. And it is one sick article.. I am just surprised at the quality of articles that come out in TOI! I did not know that Shoba De has also written one.

      • Even I didn’t know that Shobha De’s written an article about this…But some women do report false rapes to get money just like they report false dowry demands…It’s a fact…In this case apparently the medical report supports the maid’s story…

        Yes, women do report false cases but that does not mean that every thing is false , does it? And why this bias against women only? Don’t men report false cases too ?

  14. Smitha.. very nicely written.. I dunno what to say here really.. I mean its really sick that a victim can be looked upon as a criminal.. 😦 😦
    I think rape victims in India must be really really traumatized – no support from anywhere.. everybody blaming them for the crime- while the man gets to walk away..

    Anyhow.. it is true that rape is not a crime of impulse but of a carefully planned idea.. sick really!

    Exactly – totally sick! When it is so well planned – how much chance does the woman really have of escaping?

  15. Smitha, I just went through the comments and I am in agreement with almost all.

    Rape victims can be brought to justice only if it is reported sooner and police tests all the ‘samples’ the earliest possible. Now there is also test to check if it was forced or natural and then DNA testing.

    Yes, and again I am sure that Mumbai might have all the means of testing.. but do we have all these technologies available across India – I really doubt it.. So even if a girl does report it – it is more than likely that it will probably go nowhere..

    It is a fact that in 85% cases molesting happens from people in the family. So when a child complains about something different, parents should give it an ear and not side with the “mature” member of the family. In rape cases, people should have the courage to come forward but that doesn’t happen too often because of our biased and judgemental society.

    Yes, absolutely!

    Since this one case involves an actor, it has gotten this much publicity. I am siding with the girl because Shiney Ahuja accepted the crime or at least accepted that he slept with her that day but still I think the girl’s family must have thought of making it an issue to gain publicity/quick bucks and catch eyes of the likes of Mahesh Bhatt and Bhandarkar who are fast to pick on such subjects or may be they thought that they could negotiate more money from Ahuja this way. I don’t know. I could be wrong but glad that the girl came forward.

    You might be right.. she might not have come forward to report it had it not been a celebrity.. and that might also be due to the fact that – because he is a celebrity the police is even looking into it.. If he had been just another person – in all probability, the police would have done nothing..

    As for Mr. Sharma’s comment,

    If I see a violent man with a gun in his hand and still get into a brawl with him, I am asking to be shot.

    How can that logic be applied here? 😐

    Since every man has a male organ, Women should stay away from them? Or that women should be at home after dark or shouldn’t be alone because a man might use his gun anytime? I don’t understand that logic at all.

    Instead of making our society right, are we going to argue that let the ones with Guns roam freely and others take precautions?

    Agree totally. I think things can change only when men are forced to accept responsibility for their actions – in cases like this.. Normally, it is very conveniently ‘blame the victim’. Just because they escape – serial rapists go on with their exploits..

  16. Great post Smitha

    She is no different from a mugging victim or a stabbing victim. Nobody asks for it. No matter what clothes she wore, if she does not agree to it – it is rape.

    Exactly!
    Rape in India is always made out to be about the victim..the woman.
    WTF?
    How can we even think like this?
    HOW?

    I know! It is so sad isn’t it?

  17. Actually, Smitha, you’ll find that rape is a safe crime everywhere else too. Here in the UK 75-95 per cent are not reported and of those that are reported, the conviction rate stands at 3.4 per cent. There have been reports that the police do not handle rape cases in a sensitive manner (and they often blame it on the lack of personnel). I fear the problem lies in a society and judicial system that continues to be rather misogynistic and doesn’t take this crime as seriously as it should.

    Yes, it is an under-reported crime everywhere – but apparently, as per statistics – it is particularly bad in India.. If police handling in countries like UK and the US is bad- can we even start to imagine what the condition in India is..As you say ‘ fear the problem lies in a society and judicial system that continues to be rather misogynistic and doesn’t take this crime as seriously as it should.’

    • True Smitha, ‘rape is not taken as seriously as it should’ be. We do have a misogynistic way of handling this most traumatic crime against women. Those who should be providing support are not any better than the culprits. But a lot of noise from women’s groups have made progress by ensuring that the victim’s identity is not revealed and the cases are heard in camera, I think we need to make a lot more noise to ensure that the cases are taken seriously. Bobbitting and hanging for rape is not the perfect solutions. Only in cases of gang rapes, or violent rapes against children should be consider hanging.

      ‘I think we need to make a lot more noise to ensure that the cases are taken seriously. ‘ – I totally agree!

    • True Smitha, ‘rape is not taken as seriously as it should’ be. We do have a misogynistic way of handling this most traumatic crime against women. Those who should be providing support are not any better than the culprits. But a lot of noise from women’s groups have made progress by ensuring that the victim’s identity is not revealed and the cases are heard in camera, I think we need to make a lot more noise to ensure that the cases are taken seriously. Bobbitting and hanging for rape is not the perfect solutions. Only in cases of gang rapes, or violent rapes against children should we consider hanging.

  18. Why don’t we all stop driving fancy cars, wearing nice watches and pretty clothes so that it “prevents” crimes? Lets just sit at home twiddling our thumbs, doing nothing, hiding in our houses and let criminals roam the streets! And very soon these same criminals will enter our houses when they find that they cannot find the victims on the streets! Thats what they did in Australia! The aussie police were telling the students to stop showing their mobile phones and roam around in groups! A classic example of blaming victims because the police were incapable or reluctant to fight the crimes.

    Exactly! So true – ‘Lets just sit at home twiddling our thumbs, doing nothing, hiding in our houses and let criminals roam the streets! And very soon these same criminals will enter our houses when they find that they cannot find the victims on the streets!’!!

    Exactly what happened in Australia.. And you know, in every case of ‘blame the victim’, if we notice it works because the victim is perceived as ‘helpless’ and someone without a voice..

  19. I was going to write a post on this. πŸ™‚
    I’ll probably write it soon.
    Yes, its a safe crime because laws are not stringent and being an larger part of the nation being uneducated and sexually oppressed plays its role.

    Its not just the laws.. it is more to do with the implementation. We have a society which does not take it as seriously as it should.. It is more than ready to excuse the rapist..

  20. Brilliant post Smitha! Rape is the safest crime India, in fact rape isn’t even treated like a serious crime.

    ‘n fact rape isn’t even treated like a serious crime.’ – so true! We are more than ready to give the rapist the benefit of the doubt! which totally astounds me!

    The culprit has enough people, including women ready to find excuses for him. Men are also used to being treated like animals who have no self control, when the truth is, as you have pointed out, most rapes are well planned.

    Exactly! I can’t understand this argument of ‘no self control’! I think we as a society have to stop finding excuses for men who rape.

    The worst is the lack of support for the victim, I liked what you said, “She is no different from a mugging victim or a stabbing victim. Nobody asks for it. No matter what clothes she wore, if she does not agree to it – it is rape.”

  21. @Indyeah I want a society where I will NOT be groped on a public beach …

    I want a society where I will be able to come back home from office at 2 in the night ….

    I dont want to stay at home..I don’t want to lock myself..I dont want to make myself so vulnerable that there will come a day where I will forget what independence and outdoors feels like..

    I would rather learn to protect myself……
    Brilliantly put Indyeah!!!! Exactly what all women need to remind themselves when they are blamed for being adventurous or for not preventing crimes against themselves.

    IHM, Agree totally with what you and Indyeah have said!

  22. girl needs justice.
    please listen to our girl.
    girl is our futures for our good family.
    please love and respect our girl.
    our mother will taking care of us to save our life away from danger.
    please build and form organizations for our respectfully womens of india.

  23. Was wondering how I missed this post, when I realised that this was written in June/July, when I didn’t know about you πŸ™‚
    Very well written, and needless to say, I totally second you on this.

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