This day, three years ago…

I don’t know about you all, but I keep doing this – ‘last year, this day , I was doing this’ or ‘ last week, this time, we were doing this’ or ‘ last month this time, I was enjoying myΒ vacation’ or ‘next month this time, we might be doing this :)’. With all my daughter’s third birthday preparations that’s going on, I’m not surprised that my mind went back to this day – three years back πŸ™‚

Well, this was the day I got to know ‘when’ I would have my baby πŸ™‚ or in other words – my c-section got scheduled 😦 What better way of relating all this – than do the first born tag ! This tag had been going around when I was on vacation and was one of the tags I absolutely wanted to do !

Was your first pregnancy planned?

Yes – Almost by military standards πŸ™‚Β  I had started folic acid tablets way in advance, had got all fit by regular working out and had also learnt swimming because I had read that it helps in the delivery- all wasted because I had a c-section:( Right down to co-ordinating with vacation plans and work milestones πŸ™‚ It was a completely planned for and totally wanted baby πŸ™‚

2. Were you married at the time?

YesΒ  – for 5 years and I think a lot of people started believing that there were problems – which incidentally was not true. We wanted to wait till we were both ready for parenthood , with both our careers at a certain level.

3. What were your reactions?
Was esctatic, becauseΒ  I almost believed that I was not pregnant – so that blue cross was totally wonderful to see! Did 2 tests to confirm πŸ™‚

4. Was abortion an option for you?

Absolutely not!

5. How old were you?

29 yrs

6. How did you find out you were pregnant

Home Pregnancy Test

7. Who did you tell first?

Husband of course – actually he was right there – so did not need any telling πŸ™‚ And then we took a pic of the ‘cross ‘ in the test πŸ™‚

8. Due date?

May 5th – but she was born on April 24th.

9. Did you have morning sickness?

Nope! I was extremely lucky in that!Β  I just felt queasy when I smelt fried food – no sickness at all.

10. What did you crave?

Nothing in particluar – I just loved food –Β  I was always hungry – and would eat huge amounts of food – but was very strict with what I ate.Β  Would eat loads of veggies, highly nutritous food – no fried stuffΒ  – that was not difficult, given that the smell made me queasy πŸ™‚

I particularly loved dosas and there is a portugese food chain here- which I used to love (still love). I had the most wonderful colleagues then. One of the guys actually made dosas and brought it to my place – in wet, London weather – just because he knew how much I loved dosas πŸ™‚ Around that time we had moved house( in my 8th month) – so these guys wanted a house warming. I was in no position to cookΒ  – so they actually came home and cooked the most wonderful chinese food and celebrated it πŸ™‚ It was the most wonderful time!

11. Who/what irritated you the most?
Nothing. Just re-confirmed with my husband who says nothing irritated me πŸ™‚ – apparently I was very sweet – unlike how I am now πŸ™‚

12. What was your first child’s sex?

GirlΒ  – only child.

13. Did you wish you had the opposite sex of what you were getting?

No – desparately wanted a girl – always wanted a girl! We had found out in the 5th month.Β  Though the ultrasound said that it wasΒ  a girl, everybody who saw me told me that I looked like I was carrying a boy – as per mid wives tales – and was hoping that it was a girl πŸ™‚

14. How many pounds did you gain throughout the pregnancy?

12 kgs. I ate very carefully, all the most nutritious food and in the right proportions – so I did not put on too much weight – until after she was born.Β  I think I actually put on weight after having her 😦

15. Did you have a baby shower?

Nope – I had a team full of men 😦 But they did give me a wonderful goodbye gift – as I was leaving that team when I went on maternity leave πŸ™‚

16. Was it a surprise or did you know?


17. Did you have any complications during your pregnancy?

It was a totally smooth sailing pregnancy – until the last month. I suddenly developed a condition called SPD – Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction.Β  Within days, from being up and about , I was on crutches and in constant pain. The last month made up for the entire pregnancy being a breeze 😦  Here in the UK, if you have a normal pregnancy – you might not even meet a doctor – you are examined almost entirely by midwives. So the first time I met a doctor was in my 36th week and at that point – I was still fine. Barely a week later I could not walk and a midwife advised me to talk to my consultant(doctor). And 3 years ago, on 20th of April, the consultant examined me and took the decision to go in for a planned c-sec. The only date they had was on the 24th of April. I was not too keen on that date , because my parents were reaching London on that day. The next available was on May 4th and the doctors were not comfortable to wait till then – so 24th it was.

18. Where did you give birth?


19. How many hours were you in labor?


20. Who drove you to the hospital/birth center?


21. Who watched you give birth?

Husband and the ob/gyn team. Husband got to cut the umbilical cordΒ  :D

22. Was it natural or c-section?


23. Did you take medicine to ease the pain?

Epidural. I was totally aware of everything – barring the pain, of course πŸ™‚

24. How much did your child weigh?

2.65 kgs – She was a tiny baby 😦

25. When was your child actually born ?

24th April at 12:20 pm

26. What was your reaction when the doctor announced the sex of the baby?

Delighted – thoughΒ  we knew. It was nice to get it confirmed though πŸ™‚

27. What was your first reaction on seeing the baby?

Delighted, happy, proud πŸ™‚ She looked totally like my husband πŸ™‚ A tiny replica πŸ™‚

28. Did you cry?

Nope. I just remember grinning away like a Cheshire cat πŸ™‚ For some reason, felt extremely happy and proud πŸ™‚ It was such a magical time! I remember smiling at every nurse and midwife and patient I met on the way to the ward πŸ™‚

29. What did you name him/her?

My little monster πŸ™‚ I call her loads of stuffΒ  – except her real name – she actually used to get scared when I call her by her real name –Β  I do that only when I am extremely angry πŸ™‚

30. How old is your first born today?

She is 4 days away from turning 3 years old πŸ™‚

My pregnancy was one of the best times in my life. I had a lot of fun, ate all the right things, read every pregnancy book I could lay my hands on πŸ™‚ I had subscribed to every baby website – babycenter and stuff , would check every symptom in the books and the websites – but had an absolute blast! Worked till the last month and got on crutches as soon as I stopped working – guess it shows that I should have worked till the last day – must have been ‘work withdrawal symptoms’ πŸ™‚

This was a tag, I really, really enjoyed doing.. It brought back memories of that magical time of my life that brought my dear daughter to our lives! It is so difficult trying to even think of the time when we did not have her – she has so completely taken over our lives !

23 thoughts on “This day, three years ago…

  1. Fun reading this one. I am with you on the militaristic planning of my first preganancy :). Took away the pleasure from the process till my husband’s confession that the mad glint in my eye was scaring him and affecting his libido LOL, made me drop my crazy behavior.

    Me : LOL!!! ‘husband’s confession that the mad glint in my eye was scaring him’!! LOL! That was taking it to new levels!! Have you done this tag? Why don’t you do it – will be fun to read your version πŸ™‚

  2. A tag nicely done. But I had commented this to someone else before ” This is one tag that I wouldnt have to do at all” !!! πŸ˜€ Advanced Bday wishes for the little one.

    Me : Vimmuuu – very funny πŸ™‚ You could do a ‘Daddy Version ‘ of it – when your chance comes πŸ™‚ Masood and Rakesh have done a Daddy tag – of this very tag πŸ™‚ Never say never πŸ™‚ Thank you for the wishes – will pass it on to the little monster πŸ™‚

  3. Another very sweet post this morning…. very nice Smitha… LOL @ by the name you call your cute daughter when angry πŸ˜€
    Advance birthday wishes to your little monster… convey my wishes to the cutie πŸ™‚

    Me: Thank you Kanagu πŸ™‚ Yes, she used to get totally scared as I never use her real name.. I call her everything except her real nam πŸ™‚

    Thank you for the wishes – will pass it on to her πŸ™‚

  4. Advance Birthday wishes………. to the young monster πŸ˜› πŸ˜› and LOL at Vimuuu

    πŸ™‚ Best wishes for the party.. hope you guys have fun!!!! with masala dosa!!! πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

    Me : Ajit, Thank you for the wishes – the young monster is very happy today – she almost thinks her b’day is today πŸ™‚

    No masala dosas for the party 😦 Its a kids party with all english food 😦 Party food here is no fun πŸ™‚

  5. Nice tag. Your Little Monster will enjoy reading it when she can. Happy birthday in advance!

    Thank you so much!! Either she will or she’ll hate me for calling her a monster 😦 She corrects me very nicely these days -‘ No, Amme, I’m not a monster’!

  6. Awwwwww…..Smi just mailed you about Poohi and then I came here to see you wrote about Poohi.

    {{{Hugsie}}} to the little angel who is turning 3. Squeeze her tight Ummas Happy Birthday sweet little girl!

    Have fun at the party! and post pics, if you can.

    Solilo, Thanks so much for the email!!! Poohi is very happy with all the ummas and hugs πŸ™‚ Will post snaps – if I get a chance to take any decent snaps πŸ™‚ Hubby says its difficult to figure out who is more excited abt the party – Amma or daughter πŸ™‚

    She is no angel by the way – a total devil, is what she’s turning into! She drove me crazy yesterday at the mall – asking for ‘mine party something – I want mine party, special something!!!’ This from a child who normally never asks for anything while shopping 😦

  7. “Husband got to cut the umbilical cord .”

    Mine did too and he wanted to.

    Yours too πŸ™‚ He wanted to too. He was a little scared of seeing the placenta as he had heard of husband fainting at the sight of it.. Since I had a c-section – he did not have to go through it πŸ™‚

  8. You enjoyed doing the tag and I enjoyed reading it as much!Poohi,thats yourangel’s name,is it???What a sweet name!
    ‘Husband got to cut the umbilical cord ‘….how wonderful!

    A very Happy B’day to Poohi!Do give lots of ummas from this aunty too:)

    @Solilo:You’re running out of time…better get started with your tag:))

    Me: Thank you Deeps!! Poohi is what Solilo christened her πŸ™‚ I just call her ‘daughter’ in my posts but am thinking of adopting Poohi – it does sound cute, doesn’t it? I had done a post of her playing with a Winnie the Pooh puzzle and Solilo started calling her that after that πŸ™‚

    Husband wanted to do that – ever since we attended antenatal classes πŸ™‚

    Thank you so much for the wishes and the ummas – will pass it on to her πŸ™‚

  9. Very well done tag πŸ™‚ It’s so much fun doing this one na. Imagine that coming from a dad :p

    “And then we took a pic of the β€˜cross β€˜ in the test :)” – we did that too

    “Nope. I just remember grinning away like a Cheshire cat” – LOL. My wife was smiling too while the rest of us were ‘happily’ crying.

    No morning sickness – Lucky lucky you

    Masood – I read your tag and found it sooo sweet!!! You are one fantastic dad!!! Yes it was real fun doing this tag πŸ™‚

    ‘”And then we took a pic of the β€˜cross β€˜ in the test :)” – we did that too – you too πŸ™‚ Nice to see it and get reminded, isn’t it?

    ‘My wife was smiling too while the rest of us were ‘happily’ crying.’ – I guess we are so happy that the worst is over πŸ™‚ I remember being delirious with joy πŸ™‚

    Yes, no morning sickness – but the fact that I could not move in the last month – made up for it 😦

  10. Enjoyed reading tag smitha.
    *You r very lucky for not having morning sickness.I had it for both my pregnancy

    Yes, I had an absolutely smooth sailing pregnancy for the first 8 months!

    *And then we took a pic of the β€˜cross β€˜ in the test”-so u still have the snap πŸ™‚

    Yes, we do πŸ™‚

    *Yes – for 5 years and I think a lot of people started believing that there were problems” i hate when people talk abt all these,why they don’t mind their own business:(

    I know!! Can you believe it that one of my mom’s friends(?) did not tell her about her daughter’s pregnancy – just so that mom is not ‘hurt’ by the fact that her daughter is not pregnant!!!!!

    *Your daughter will be like ur hubby,my mom says who ever cuts the umbilical cord,the baby will be like them.

    She is a total replica of my husband πŸ™‚

    *Lol she gets scared by listening her actual name
    Yes, since I use it only when I am very, very angry

    Indeed kids take over our life completely,when my kids sleep i get so bored that i wanted to wake them up.Sometimes i feel i won’t send my elder one to school at all.

    I know, they do take over our lives, don’t they? But, I do not even think of waking her up when she is sleeping πŸ™‚ I try and relax and do my thing then πŸ™‚

    Advance b’day wishes to ur cutie poohi:
    Thank you so much!!!

  11. somehow i just cant remember this day that year clearly.
    things get very blurrrrrred, sometimes.

    enjoyed your tag, though

    Thanks for visiting, Maidinmalaysia! do come again

  12. “My little monster I call her loads of stuff – except her real name – she actually used to get scared when I call her by her real name – I do that only when I am extremely angry.”

    Oh dear! what a coincidence. I mentioned the same somewhere on my blog too. If I call Peanut by her full name then that means ‘Mamma is mad’. So Peanut becomes the best child in the whole world. πŸ˜€

    You too πŸ™‚ Wow what a coincidence!!! She listens as soon as she hears me call her by her real name πŸ™‚ I do know that if she’s anything like me, as soon as she starts school – she will want to be called only by her proper name 😦 I used to hate my parents calling me pet names – but I did grow out of that phase πŸ™‚

  13. /*She corrects me very nicely these days -’ No, Amme, I’m not a monster’*/

    LOL πŸ˜† she is becoming much knowledgable now πŸ™‚

    LOL – yes, knowledgable and very naughty and a BIG drama queen!!!

  14. The little monster had a very motivated mom πŸ™‚ This has been my favorite tag… loved reading about your first experience too, I think it’s great when dad’s can cut the umbilical cord, it gets them involved too πŸ™‚

    Like you I also have lovely (-iest) memories of my pregnancy .. I love the smiling like a Cheshire cat description πŸ™‚ Let this little monster grow up these are going to be her favorite posts … I once wrote a blog post about how much this affects them, you may find this happening too,

    IHM, Motivated mom – or just crazy mom – I’m not entirely sure πŸ™‚ I absolutely loved this tag – it was wonderful doing this and reliving those days!
    ‘Let this little monster grow up these are going to be her favorite posts ‘ – I certainly hope so πŸ™‚

    I just hopped over to your post – and loved it!!! I remember my dad telling a long time back – when I was little – that I made him a Dad – I was quite small – and was quite confused – at that time, it had never occurred to me that he had another identity – that he was not always a dad πŸ™‚ But now I understand what he meant- the depth of emotion πŸ™‚

  15. emotional tag isn’t it. feels good.. πŸ™‚

    Oorja, Welcome here! Yes, it is an emotional tag.. felt wonderful to do it- reliving all those memories:)

  16. Aww… such a cute post!

    Happy B’day to Poohi! (As Solilo has christened your little one!: P)

    Enjoyed reading it…
    So, how was the party? (or is it yet to happen? *confused*)

    Me: Pixie – Thank you Pixie!

    The party is this saturday – her birthday is on friday – but we are celebrating it on saturday! Sorry – for confusing you – I am totally lost in her party prep πŸ™‚

  17. hehe.. I started reading this post and it reminded me of that character in Dil chahta hai- subhod i think the name was.. “this day that year, this day, this time that month” hehe πŸ˜‰
    But lovely tag…
    My husband was there during my C-Section, but he refused cut the umbilical cord…
    didnt gather the courage,.. Or…… was it b’coz he was busy taking the video n pics of the lil one.. well the argument continues haha

    LOL N πŸ™‚ Your husband was there too πŸ™‚ It is nice to have them there to hold your hand, isn’t it? Husband was extremely excited about cutting the umbilical cord – he was also busy taking videos and snaps.. It was such a wonderful time πŸ™‚ Thank you!

  18. While you did this tag to wish her Happy Birthday in Advance.. I must convey my belated birthday wishes… !!!! hope to read in the newer posts that she had a blast on her birthday… !!!!

    your husband is so so lucky… !!!

    My doc wouldnt let me enter the room…. strange are things in our country !

    I know. lots of my friends have complained of the same.. But my friends in Bangalore had their husbands in with them…

  19. Nice one Smitha πŸ™‚

    We wanted to wait till we were both ready for parenthood – that is it rt πŸ˜‰
    Its ppl who think the age or the no of yrs we r married for matters πŸ˜›
    Ppl even tell us those cousins who got married after us have overtaken us LOL :))

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